Let It Go, Sis

“To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own.” –Jack Kornfield

Yes, we are all guilty of holding on to situations that we know we should release from. Whether we are holding on to a grudge, holding on to memories from a relationship or holding on to a negative experience that replays in our minds.

You have to understand that holding on does not change anything. Holding on to a situation will only hold you back from creating a strong sense of self.

One of the most difficult things for most people to let go of are relationships. Often times, we will turn into someone completely different when we don’t want to let go. We start to make poor choices, lie, or even bring negativity to not only yourself but the ones around you.

I remember holding on to a past relationship even after my heart was broken and the relationship was clearly over . I couldn’t even recognize myself when I looked in the mirror. I was angry all the time, stressed out and took my frustrations out on my loved ones.

The moment I recognized i was holding on to this relationship that was over, I started to “DO THE SELF-WORK.” First, I learned to accept that the relationship I thought I was suppose to be in forever is over. I began to move on and that is when my life started falling back into place for the good.

Although it can be difficult to let go of someone you’ve built a deep connection with, it is necessary to let go to live a great life.

The key to letting go is facing what has happened, accepting that you can’t change it and then moving on. 

What I Am Wearing:

Top- Wellington Mall

Cargo- Fashion Nova

Shoes- Ego

Clutch- Express

A Picture Perfect Birthday

Mood: It’s a celebration every time we link up 😝

If you’re like me, then you love love love birthdays. I love the entire process leading up to my birthday festivities.

From transforming with hair and make up, planning the festivities (my sister really plans it, lol), to inviting all of my close family friends to come and celebrate me. I love it all ! And yes I am very EMOTIONAL around my birthday. ♋️

This year was a tad bit different. Normally, I would travel to a location where 20-25 family and friends would meet me.

Or I would do a themed dinner party. But this year I decided to stay local and lowkey. Well I kind of lowkey. LOL

My sister, who’s always in charge of the planning committee, made reservation at Banko Cantina for tacos, margaritas, and whatever else that came with that night.

We did tacos because my birthday fell on a Tuesday…Taco Tuesday’s! Get it?! Lol

Everything was so perfect! Everyone came out and enjoyed the night. I am a firm believe of controlling your energy and who gets to invade your space.

The family and friends that attended had the perfect energy I needed. The love and support was so real!!

I’ve learn so much about myself in the last couple of months leading up to my birthday.

I realize I had to increase my self love, self affirmation, positive thinking, and my selfishness.

Yes, you read correctly. I had to put me first in all facets of my life. Love life, work life, family life, etc.

Best decision I ever could have made this year. I am so much more happier, stress free and just loving life.

This year I have to say my birthday was perfect. I’m in a good space mentally. I’m so excited for what’s to come.

Happy Birthday To Me !!

What I Am Wearing:

Corset- Fashion Nova

Jeans- H&M

Shoes- Ego

Hair Provided by, Colored By, Installed By-www.styleseat.com/kadiekay

What’s The Tee?!

Shall we enter a staple of the modern, youthful wardrobe??!: the graphic tee…

Graphic tees make statements like, “I desire to fit in” or “I’m a part of subculture.” Your wardrobe should consist of a few graphic tees. Be fashionable yet make your statement conveying political sentiments, social desires, cultural tastes, branding, etc. What’s a better way to get a message out other than being a walking message.

I chose to make the statement that I am a fan of the hip hop culture by wearing a graphic tee with Christopher “Biggie Smalls” Wallace. By pairing with just boots, a cute little bag and accessories, Ive created a chic sexy stylish look for the culture. ✊🏾

The 22nd death anniversary of Biggie Smalls, the voice that influences a generation, just passed on March 9th. His legacy and music still lives on till this day.

What I Am Wearing:

Graphic Tee: Cotton On

Boots: Ego

Purse: Forever 21

Accessories: Forever 21